"Ice Buds" Copyright © 2014, Shawn Nichols.
“Ice Buds” Copyright © 2014, Shawn Nichols.

If we aren’t careful, our marriages can become encased in an icy relationship, one that is more convenience than fire. My last post covered 50 ways men can fan the flames and a friend, Felicia Bridges, modified the list for the ladies. See her compilation here. We need to melt the ice and enjoy the blossoms. As soon as Raleigh thaws, I know the best Valentine’s gift for Shawn. I have given away one too many shovels, and Shawn could not find one to help with the snowy driveway. We had to improvise. True love is working with my best friend to complete a big job.

Take a minute and read these verses carefully.

And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope; and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us. Romans 5:3-5 (NASB)

A box of tribulations

A box of tribulations does not sound like much of a gift, does it? I do not tribulate very well, and I would hope a gift receipt is included so I can exchange the present. But maybe the Giver of life knows me better than I know myself. Maybe He knows exactly what I need.

Through tribulation, and only through tribulation, I learn perseverance. I adopt principles and form beliefs that sustain me through the turmoil. Nothing of value comes easily, and perseverance is no exception. I have to practice, exercise, and gain strength. I find much repetition in my assortment of tribulations to reinforce the lessons.

Over time perseverance becomes something permanent – proven character. Now that’s a gift I really want. I recall devout saints from my youth, men and women of age who invested their time in my development. To walk that walk I need faith muscles that grow stronger as my hair grays with the years mileage of life.

Perseverance and proven character team up to give a vital element—hope. No matter the circumstance I hold on, knowing God has a plan, knowing He is molding me into something better.

Seems God’s love is all over the gift of tribulation. He knows the best gift, the one I most need.

John Heart

Happy Valentine’s Day!