Consider two simple sentences spoken during a husband/wife breakfast discussion.
“Your toast,” she said.
Ah! Kindness abounds. The lady in her pink fuzzy slippers and worn bath robe is radiant, and her husband basks in the sunlight of her smile. She passes the plate in a demonstration of love, and toast never tasted so good.
“You’re toast,” she said.
Something sinister is afoot. The lady, wearing a scowl, passes the plate. She’s capable of real-time verbal obfuscation, and the man must now search for clues to divine her true meaning. Is her “you-better-pay-attention-because-I’m-upset” warning wrinkle printed across her forehead? Has her smile flatlined? Did he just conclude his presentation of the day’s plan, and is his wife predicting the outcome? The man chews but never tastes his toast as fight or flight deliberations consume his thoughts.
Little things matter. December is a stressful month and our spouse may, at times, grate on our last nerve. Stop before reacting. Try a little kindness in the words, and savor the result. Paul instructs us:
“Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person.”
Colossians 4:6 (NASB)
PS – The toast was great!